Category: Feeling

We all have monents that life seems to suck. Often that is because we feel bad, possibly due to something happening, such as a loss, or a misunderstanding, etc. Here are some practical easy to learn & apply processes on how to handle emotional distress. Alphabetical order by title.

Feeling: Adolescent Depression

Warning Signs Of Adolescent Depression

We are all concerned about the health of our children from the moment that they emerge into the world, but an overlooked aspect of their health could turn out to be one of the biggest factors. A child’s mental health, and, later in life, an adolescent’s mental health, have huge effects on the way that our children and teens live. Problems like depression can affect the quality of life for your adolescent, and can even affect their physical health.

If you think

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Feeling: Afraid to be found out

Someone may know about something you have done that you don’t want found out. The worry about whether someone will find out something that you believe will discredit you in some way is very damaging to you. It is much less damaging if you know that your secret is known, or know that it isn’t known.

It is important that this worrying doubt be resolved in some way, in any way, as keeping it with you causes you to subtly destroy all your relationships. It will cause you to be critical of others, and to create

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Feeling: Afraid To Die

Are you afraid to die?

When we hear the word “death” we imagine a skeleton dressed in a black coat that is coming to take you. What is death to a person: a fatal break of their flight or a blessing that is expected to come as soon as it is possible? This article will be a useful hint for those who want to decide for themselves, what they feel towards death.

In the free evening you sit comfortably in your armchair and read an exciting book. Suddenly the clock strikes ten and you listen carefully to every

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Feeling: Alienation

Some people feel very much a part of their families and the society in which they live whilst others feel completely out of place. They feel that they must have been adopted or that they must have come from somewhere else even from another planet or another universe. They may be right.

You have your own unique universe. You are here to have fun finding how other’s have constructed their own universes. Each of those universe’s is different from all others–unique!

At some time in your life you will find

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Feeling: Blame

If you receive information about yourself which you do not want you tend to make it unconscious to get rid of it. When it is activated in any way at another time it can appear to belong to someone else. You see the something that you do not want but it appears outside your self. It appears in another person. This is what causes you to blame others. Blame is saying “I do not want this to be!”

If someone is blaming you, realize that no matter what you have done or not done the blame is coming from the hidden

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Feeling: Bruises, bumps, burns

Take conscious control of the situation or help the other take conscious control of the situation if it is their injury that you are helping with. Do this first

1. Put the body in exactly the same position as it was when it was hurt–e.g. if you bumped your leg on a piece of furniture, put the spot on your leg that was hurt back in touch with the spot on the furniture, but gently this time! (Turn off and cool down any stove, radiator, power tool etc. that was instrumental in causing the injury).

2. Take it

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Feeling: Common Symptoms Of Depression

10 Common Symptoms Of Depression

Every year approximately 9.5 per cent of the American population suffers from depression. Depression is a grave illness that affects day to day life and destroys families. It is a disorder that controls the mind and its functions causing loss of appetite, sleeplessness, mood swings, and a deep sense of despair.

The symptoms of depression are varied and the severity changes with time. And, according to experts depression can be an inherited disorder, or caused by life threatening

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Feeling: Conflicts

A conflicts occurs when more than one person is determined to be the only one who is right AND is determined to believe that the other or others is or are wrong. Right and wrong can be different for each and every individual.

In relation to some activities it has been found that the desired result can be obtained more easily, more quickly or otherwise more effectively by doing and or thinking in a particular way. Some call these particular ways “right” when actually, the “right” way is usually the

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Feeling: Critical to

This section is to use if you find yourself being critical. By “critical,” I do not mean assessing something in order to choose, I mean find things wrong with another person or other persons.

If you find yourself being critical then the first thing to realize is, that whether or not the things you find wrong with the other person are there, or did actually happen, or not, the sense of wrongness comes from you. You are judging.

When you think the critical thought or say the critical message to another you

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Feeling: Crying

Don’t try to stop.

1. Increase the intensity of the feeling that seems to be with you in your grief. Intensify it to the maximum.

2. Fill containers with it. See how many containers you can fill with it!

As you proceed,

3. Check what other feelings might be present with the grief: unexpressed anger, perhaps, or self pity or sympathy. These may relate to yourself, or to another.

4. Intensify these feelings, and fill more containers. You won’t run out of containers! There are as many imaginary containers as

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Feeling: Death (sudden)

Sudden death of a person leaves and unexpected hole in the lives of others. Aspects of life that are planned and expected that involve the other appear broken. Behaviours, once normal and routine, now seem out of place. (I still put the scraps down for the dog sometimes and it is years since she died) Communication begins and you realize they are not there to receive it.

They are no longer physically here but sometimes you can become aware of them and some people feel they are still in communication with the

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Feeling: Decisions

How To Make Or Take Decisions

Life is like a road. There are long and short roads; smooth and rocky roads; crooked and straight paths. In our life many roads would come our way as we journey through life. There are roads that lead to a life of single blessedness, marriage, and religious vocation. There are also roads that lead to fame and fortune on one hand, or isolation and poverty on the other. There are roads to happiness as there are roads to sadness, roads towards victory and jubilation, and roads leading

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Feeling: Depression

There is a form of depression that you will need professional help with. If you have it you will not be looking in this website to help yourself.

The most common causes of depression are long-term, suppressed anger or suppressed hurt. Although these are the cause of eighty percent of depression, the anger or hurt will long ago have been lost to the sight of the sufferer.

Anger is a basic and natural human emotion, which can be healthily expressed through a simple process. If expressed inappropriately, it can

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Feeling: Depression

While the term depression has been commonly used that people tend not to take it seriously anymore, it is a very serious condition that could impair one’s life. Depression is very difficult. It can debilitate one’s normal functions, making even the most mundane tasks such as getting up from bed or eating breakfast seemingly difficult. It is sad to think that a lot of depressed individuals are not treated because of the high costs of therapy. However, coping with depression is still possible without professional

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Feeling: Depression Self Help

Depression Self Help

Depression is nothing new.

It is though a state of mind that affects most of us at some time or other, hopefully only fleetingly.

Why is it that what for one is a mild irritation is for another an earth shattering experience?

Finding out who you are and why you react to situations in a certain way is a helpful first step to protecting yourself against future attacks of depression.

One of the problems that affect us humans is a state of mind referred to as depression.

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Feeling: Disappointment

That which we imagine, desire and expect without reservation usually occurs. In relationships, however, it very often happens that one person expects the other to be in a certain way, or to do certain things. Consciously or otherwise, they expect this in order for the other to make them happy. Such an apparently desirable and selfless utterance as “I love you” can often be understood to carry the meaning “therefore I am giving you the responsibility of being and doing what keeps me happy.”

This can

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Feeling: Disoriented

Hold a tree or rock. Feel its texture. Look at its colours. Listen to its sound. Smell it. Let go of it.

Repeat all the above. Feel the tree with different parts of your body. Imagine you are the tree, and feel your solidity. Feel your roots going into the earth and your branches reaching to the sky. Feel the sap running in your cells, the wind in your leaves and the birds in your branches.

Feel your own body, and imagine the tree feeling you.

Hold the tree or rock.

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Feeling: Domestic Violence And Depression

Domestic Violence And Depression

More and more people are reporting incidents of domestic violence to the police. If you are a victim of domestic violence you will be aware of just how frightening it can be. The question that many people ask is what are the causes of this violence, is the person just a lunatic or are there other reasons behind it.

According to the latest reports alcohol has a large part to play in leading to cases of domestic violence. In the example of a husband hitting his wife when he is

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Feeling: Dying (death)

Consciousness exists, whether it is focused through a physical body or not. Death is a cessation of physical experience. This may occur after a long, or a short life.

The transition from life to death, as we normally describe those states, can be just as exciting and pleasurable as any other planned change through our conscious existence. There can be more pain and suffering in birth and in life than there is in death.

The expectations of a being (person) determine what that being experiences at death, as in

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Feeling: Eliminate Panic Attacks

Anyone who has ever had a panic attack knows how life stopping these events can feel. A panic attack can seriously hurt your quality of life by causing you become terrified of a repeat episode. This terror is just another negative side effect of panic attacks, and you should learn to think of it as such so that you can get on with your life without the constant fear of a panic attack hanging over your head. Worrying about having a panic attack all the time might even cause you to trigger panic attacks later.

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Feeling: Fears and Phobias

How To Know Fears and Phobias

A person’s fear can hinder his chances for development and for success. Fear in itself can be debilitating and can limit a person’s ability to go through life in a healthy way. Sometimes, a person’s fear can rule a person’s life and he becomes bereft of reason.

A person who allows his fear to rule his life can be prevented from leading a normal life. The sad fact is that the person who has the fear is not the only one affected, but also his family, friends, and the people

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Feeling: Fight Back Against Depression

How To Fight Back Against Depression

Written by an anonymous source

I am one of those people who can easily slip into a very negative state of mind. The slightest knockback or problem can lead to a cloud of doom descending over me, a cloud which I find hard to push away and remove. This article looks at ways in which we can fight back, to quickly get us back into a happy mode.

I used to be quite a fragile character, some would say that I was even scared of my own shadow. I was always paranoid that people were

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Feeling: Forgiving

Most people forgive most others. Many people who can forgive others cannot forgive themselves. What is forgiveness?

It is accepting that something has happened that you would have preferred did not happen or it is accepting that something did not happen that you would have chosen to happen.

The time in which these happenings should have happened or should not have happened is past. That time no longer exists.

Have you ever changed the past by continuing to want it to be different? Has anyone? Has anyone changed

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Feeling: Grief

Be willing to experience the grief. Do not fight it. Really feel the grief. This natural human emotion will evolve into another emotion when it is allowed to flow.

The flow will be inhibited if you feed the grief. This is often done by feeling self-pity, and not recognizing that it is a different feeling.

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Feeling: Guilt

Guilt is anger that you feel you have no right to have. Guilt is of no benefit to anyone.

Steps:

Find the guilt.

1. Write down, in detail, the experience about which you feel the guilt. Don’t try to write in any particular way. Write it as it is, as it was, and how you feel about it. Be honest.

As best you can, be the person you were at the time you felt the guilt.2. Find the anger under the guilt.

Ask,3. “Who am I angry with?”

4. Feel the anger; really feel it.

5. Create all the anger that you did not feel

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Feeling: Headache

Headaches have a variety of causes. Some of them are physical, as when you damage your neck or back alignment, or when your posture ensures that nerves are constantly being pinched.There will even be a some relief for these headaches from the following.

Steps:

1. Locate where you consider the pain is.

2. Feel it.

3. Describe how it feels.

4. Describe the actual size of the pain in, or on, the head.

5. Locate the centre of the pain.

6. Move the centre at least 1 cm in the direction that you feel will be easiest.

7.

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Feeling: Hurried

Hurried

Steps:

1. Stop. Stop everything you are doing. Stop thinking.

2. Ask yourself “What am I going to do, at the end of my lifetime, with the minutes or hours that I save by hurrying?

3. Write what it is that you are saving all this time for. Don’t just read this and think the answer. Sit down and answer it fully.

Now4. Decide and write down which things YOU feel are really important for YOU to do–during the next few minutes–during today–during tomorrow–the next day–next week–at the end of

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Feeling: Hurt another

Hurt another

Steps:

1. Are you sorry? If so, allow yourself to feel the sorrow. Do not justify or excuse, just feel the sorrow.

2. Are you ashamed? Realize that the shame is a result of treatment you have received, but under it is real sorrow. Feel it.

3. Are you blaming someone? Realize that what you are blaming another for is something that is hidden within you.

You may indeed be genuinely sorry, with no clutter of the above feelings. If so:4. Allow yourself to feel it. The name for this emotion of feeling genuinely

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Feeling: Hurt emotionally

Firstly, feel the pain. Write it out as fully as you can. Find what you expected to happen that didn’t, and/or what you didn’t expect to happen that did!

The feeling of hurt comes from a perceived separation from love. It comes from expecting something which you felt was a need or a want, and it was not given. It comes from expecting another to be, or to feel, or to do in a certain way toward you, and having them be different from your expectations. It feels like a break in trust. It feels like a fracturing

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Feeling: Intuition

How To Develop Your Intuition

Have you had that experience when all of a sudden you just had this huge hunch that something is about to happen, and to your surprise, that intuition was eventually translated to reality?

When you feel strongly about something without logical basis to it, that’s called intuition. It comes in three impressions: clairvoyance or “the third eye”, sensing clearly and feeling through listening.

Clairvoyance is when your eye goes beyond what it can see. This is when you know what

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Feeling: Jealousy

Jealousy hurts. Jealousy is the belief that there is not enough to go around and that you are the one who is going to miss out. It’s seeds are planted in early childhood. It develops and grows in atmospheres of competition and scarcity.

Feel what you are really feeling when you are jealous and you will feel the feeling of competing for something that you consider is scarce.

Sometimes it is the real or imagined scarcity of love or attention that you are competing for.

Sometimes it is felt as the effort to fight

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Feeling: Loneliness

Loneliness

Give freely to another or others of your time and in any other way that you can.

Write a letter.

Give a smile.

Give understanding.

Give a flower.

Give with the thought of creating pleasure without a thought of getting in return.

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Feeling: Loss (sudden)

Feels as though everything is gone? Feels like an enormous emptiness?

1. Tell a friend, or write down:

–everything you feel.

–all that is now lost to you.

–what you no longer have.

–the future that you no longer have because of this loss.

2. Feel the emotions that come to you. Let them flow, i.e. do not stop them or judge them or analyze them, etc.

3. Write about all the similar losses you know about, whether they be yours or someone else’s.

4. Feel the feelings that are there.

Now,

5. Write about what will

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Feeling: Love (too much)

Love too much? One way street? Sometimes people have beliefs about themselves, that cause them to miss out on self-love. A healthy amount of self-love is essential for the flow of love, both towards us, and out from us.

If you feel a welling-up of love, and you believe there’s no-one who could receive it,

1. Imagine yourself in a circle of flowing energy.

2. You flow love out and around the circle and simultaneously feel the flow of love coming in to you.

Do this at least twice a day.

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Feeling: Lovely elbow fight

On the street there are no rules. You have to fight mean. Use at least your elbows when you are grabbed.

The downward elbow can be smashed into the face, throat or sternum when you lever your attacker slightly backwards by grabbing the back of an attacker’s hair, then driving an elbow into the sternum followed by an inner or outer leg reap is a great combination.

The downward elbow can also be used to great effect on the arms, If grabbed by the lapels. You can smash the point of the elbow right into

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Feeling: Lucid Dreams

How to Experience a Lucid Dream

Lucid dreaming means dreaming while you know that you are dreaming. The term was coined by Frederik van Eeden who used the word “lucid” in the sense of mental clarity. With practice nearly anyone can experience lucid dreams.

Lucidity is not the same as dream control. It is possible to be lucid and have little control over the dream. However, becoming lucid in a dream is likely to increase your ability to deliberately influence the events within the dream. With practice

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Feeling: Neutralize Depression By Action

Everybody gets the blues once in a while. It’s normal to feel sad on a rainy day, get sentimental over a lost love, or feel so terribly lonely during really low moments of your life.

But once depression gets out of hand, it can wreak havoc on your mental state and drive you to such emotional lows – to the point that you might seriously choose ending your life. So if you think you’re experiencing extreme emotional lows, then you’d better do something about it.

What are the signs of depression?

1.

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Feeling: Not good enough

This can be a devastating feeling that prevents you from doing anything in life. There are causes, which need professional help to resolve.

As a first aid,

Ask yourself,1. Who has set the standard of what is good, that I am measuring myself against? Using pen and paper, answer this question as fully as you can, from all past and present experience.

Realize that good and bad are as you see good and bad.

2. Are you trying to mould yourself according to someone else’s standard of acceptability?

3. When was the

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Feeling: Problem

You are, or someone else is, in the middle of such a big problem that nothing else seems to exist. It is so big that it is all that they can see–and they see it, of course, from the inside.

Ask

1. What is the problem (or situation, or condition)? so that you have a name for it–for example, “the problem with my boyfriend.”

Now ask2. What problem (situation or condition) would be worse than ……………… e.g. “the problem with my boyfriend.”

They may say that nothing could be worse. Ask them to3.

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Feeling: Psychic attack

It appears that you are being sabotaged and that your experiences are being created by a malevolent source. This can be true. The way to handle it is not:

1. To resist it or get angry about it.

2. To fight it or to defend self.

3. To hide from it or escape it.

These actions encourage it to affect you.

Step aside and allow the energy from that other to go past you. Allow it to be their energy. If you do nothing at all but realise that there is some energy there, to accept or reject, it will not affect you.

If it

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Feeling: Regain Self Confidence

Building Self Confidence starts withe the very first step to accept yourself – lovingly. No person in the world is perfect so why bother to shed tears over your imperfectness. This is how God wanted us to be – Imperfect! We might have something that someone else may lack and someone else might be endowed with the qualities, which we lack. This incompleteness makes us go out and seek companions who make us feel loved, wanted and complete. Oh what a great feeling! Would we experience it if we were inside

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Feeling: Regretted actions

1. Look at what you have done. Really acknowledge it to yourself. Do not make excuses or justifications–these only make you feel worse.

2. How do you judge yourself for behaving in this way? How do you regard or judge anyone else who has done the same thing?

3. Forgive all others that you have judged. When you have done that, you will be able to forgive yourself.

4. Decide to change.

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Feeling: Revenge

Revenge is an attempt to show how displeased or angry you are because of something that another has done. You consider that they have harmed you. You do not know how to express your anger nor how to ‘make right’ the hurt you feel.

If you consider that you will feel better once the other person shares your anger and hurt and therefore plan to cause them to share it by doing something that angers and hurts them you are then creating two lots of anger and hurt.

You will each have two lots of it then. Because

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Feeling: Self pity

If you are lost in self-pity,

Ask yourself

1. Whose attention do I want?

Then ask,

2. When?

Ask

3. Who am I trying to punish?

Then ask,

4. When?

Just let answers come. It may surprise you.

Now, ask yourself

5. Do I enjoy giving attention to someone else who is feeling sorry for themselves.

If your answer is “No,”

6. Decide what kind of person you do prefer to be with, and give your attention to.

If you are trying to punish someone,

7. Look and see whether they are really being punished by your self-pity. Who is it that

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Feeling: Shame

When you have not been allowed to feel real sorrow, or have not allowed yourself to feel real sorrow, the resulting effect of an emotion is shame.

Shame and guilt are not normal human emotions. Shame has no source within you ## it is something that has been dumped on you. Do not confuse shame with the powerful energy of remorse.

The only first aid is to realize that shame is something that has been caused by another, or others. It can be ended by not trying to hide the cause.

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Feeling: Sick (of a loved one)

If the sickness of another causes you worry and fear you can become weak and ineffective. No-one is helped in this way.

What people create is what exists. If you are happy and I am happy we have two lots of happiness. That seems OK. If I am unhappy and you become unhappy then we have two lots of unhappiness. That does not seem so good. It will not create happiness for anyone.

If someone is sick, and you put your attention on the sickness, there are two lots of sickness. So the first thing to do is take your

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Feeling: Social Anxiety

Ways To Deal With Social Anxiety

Social Anxiety Disorder is a mental disorder that attacks one out of every eight Americans. Those who have the disorder can become physically sick in social situations. This disorder can devastate more than your self esteem, it can destroy your marriage, finances and many other aspects of your life. The disorder is characterized by fear of social situations.

There is help for people suffering with this disorder. If you seek treatment, you will be able to obtain medications,

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Feeling: State of the world (TV)

There is some danger, sitting in front of the TELEVISION for any length of time. You get mainly the unpleasant aspects of life presented as “news”, as certain current affairs programs, in police shows, and the like. As you sit watching this unpleasant material, you may have sympathy, anger and other emotions stimulated. You may also blame people for some of what you see.

This can make you very unhappy, frustrated, angry and feel you are powerless.

Realize that although you are big enough, powerful enough

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Feeling: Stress

How To Manage Stress

We all have this favorite expression when it comes to being stressed out, and I wouldn’t bother naming all of them since it may also vary in different languages. But when it comes down to it, I think that it is how we work or even relax, for that matter that triggers stress. Ever been stressed even when you’re well relaxed and bored? I know I have.

Since stress is unavoidable in life, it is important to find ways to decrease and prevent stressful incidents and decrease negative reactions

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Feeling: Suppressed feelings

Feelings which are suppressed, sometimes these are hard to identify–you think you feel. Sometimes not feeling is sensed as an awareness of lack or of hollowness. There are a lot of suppressed feelings around!

To begin to contact these, start from your earliest childhood memories.

1. Write down a list of the feelings you remember that you have had.

2. Write the feelings that you think you might have had if you had allowed yourself to express them.

3. Be aware of times when you felt proud to have controlled your

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Feeling: What Causes Depression

What Causes Depression?

Usually in our adolescence, we are exposed to many sudden and inexplicable mood swings as a result of our body undergoing various hormonal changes that prepare us for adulthood.

Aside from increased social pressures, the onset of menstruation, for example, introduces adolescent girls to premenstrual tension (or premenstrual syndrome) and the menstrual cramps, the former being a mixture of physical and psychological symptoms, including temporary weight gain, fluid retention, depression,

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Feeling: Your Self Esteem

How is your Self Esteem.

Self esteem is your own personal view of yourself physically, mentally, and emotionally. Everyone has a different view of themselves, but keeping a positive outlook will benefit you more than a negative one. Many individuals suffer from low self esteem for a variety of reasons and need to build their self esteem in order to succeed in life. Remember, the only one who can make you excel is you and no one else. The same goes for self esteem. The only person who can build up—or

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First Aid: Disappointment

That which we imagine, desire and expect without reservation usually occurs. In relationships, however, it very often happens that one person expects the other to be in a certain way, or to do certain things. Consciously or otherwise, they expect this in order for the other to make them happy. Such an apparently desirable and selfless utterance as “I love you” can often be understood to carry the meaning “therefore I am giving you the responsibility of being and doing what keeps me happy.”
This

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First Aid: Dying (death)

Consciousness exists, whether it is focused through a physical body or not. Death is a cessation of physical experience. This may occur after a long, or a short life.
The transition from life to death, as we normally describe those states, can be just as exciting and pleasurable as any other planned change through our conscious existence. There can be more pain and suffering in birth and in life than there is in death.
The expectations of a being (person) determine what that being experiences

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First Aid: Grief

Be willing to experience the grief. Do not fight it. Really feel the grief. This natural human emotion will evolve into another emotion when it is allowed to flow.
The flow will be inhibited if you feed the grief. This is often done by feeling self-pity, and not recognizing that it is a different feeling.
(If you find you are feeling sorry for yourself, decide whether you actually want to do that. If so, set yourself a time limit for self-pity e.g. 20 minutes, and when that time is up, choose

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First Aid: Headache

Headaches have a variety of causes. Some of them are physical, as when you damage your neck or back alignment, or when your posture ensures that nerves are constantly being pinched.There will even be a some relief for these headaches from the following.
Steps:
1. Locate where you consider the pain is.
2. Feel it.
3. Describe how it feels.
4. Describe the actual size of the pain in, or on, the head.
5. Locate the centre of the pain.
6. Move the centre at least 1 cm

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First Aid: Hurried

Hurried
Steps:
1. Stop. Stop everything you are doing. Stop thinking.
2. Ask yourself “What am I going to do, at the end of my lifetime, with the minutes or hours that I save by hurrying?
3. Write what it is that you are saving all this time for. Don’t just read this and think the answer. Sit down and answer it fully.
Now4. Decide and write down which things YOU feel are really important for YOU to do–during the next few minutes–during today–during tomorrow–the next

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First Aid: Hurt another

Hurt another
Steps:
1. Are you sorry? If so, allow yourself to feel the sorrow. Do not justify or excuse, just feel the sorrow.
2. Are you ashamed? Realize that the shame is a result of treatment you have received, but under it is real sorrow. Feel it.
3. Are you blaming someone? Realize that what you are blaming another for is something that is hidden within you.
You may indeed be genuinely sorry, with no clutter of the above feelings. If so:4. Allow yourself to feel it. The

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First Aid: Hurt emotionally

Firstly, feel the pain. Write it out as fully as you can. Find what you expected to happen that didn’t, and/or what you didn’t expect to happen that did!
The feeling of hurt comes from a perceived separation from love. It comes from expecting something which you felt was a need or a want, and it was not given. It comes from expecting another to be, or to feel, or to do in a certain way toward you, and having them be different from your expectations. It feels like a break in trust. It feels like

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First Aid: Jealousy

Jealousy hurts. Jealousy is the belief that there is not enough to go around and that you are the one who is going to miss out. It’s seeds are planted in early childhood. It develops and grows in atmospheres of competition and scarcity.
Feel what you are really feeling when you are jealous and you will feel the feeling of competing for something that you consider is scarce.
Sometimes it is the real or imagined scarcity of love or attention that you are competing for.
Sometimes it is felt

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First Aid: Loneliness

Loneliness
Give freely to another or others of your time and in any other way that you can.
Write a letter.
Give a smile.
Give understanding.
Give a flower.
Give with the thought of creating pleasure without a thought of getting in return.

>>> READ MORE >>>

First Aid: Loss (sudden)

Feels as though everything is gone? Feels like an enormous emptiness?
1. Tell a friend, or write down:
–everything you feel.
–all that is now lost to you.
–what you no longer have.
–the future that you no longer have because of this loss.
2. Feel the emotions that come to you. Let them flow, i.e. do not stop them or judge them or analyze them, etc.
3. Write about all the similar losses you know about, whether they be yours or someone else’s.
4. Feel

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First Aid: Love (too much)

Love too much? One way street? Sometimes people have beliefs about themselves, that cause them to miss out on self-love. A healthy amount of self-love is essential for the flow of love, both towards us, and out from us.
If you feel a welling-up of love, and you believe there’s no-one who could receive it,
1. Imagine yourself in a circle of flowing energy.
2. You flow love out and around the circle and simultaneously feel the flow of love coming in to you.
Do this at least twice a day.

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First Aid: Lucid Dreams

How to Experience a Lucid Dream
Lucid dreaming means dreaming while you know that you are dreaming. The term was coined by Frederik van Eeden who used the word “lucid” in the sense of mental clarity. With practice nearly anyone can experience lucid dreams.
Lucidity is not the same as dream control. It is possible to be lucid and have little control over the dream. However, becoming lucid in a dream is likely to increase your ability to deliberately influence the events within the dream.

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First Aid: Not good enough

This can be a devastating feeling that prevents you from doing anything in life. There are causes, which need professional help to resolve.
As a first aid,
Ask yourself,1. Who has set the standard of what is good, that I am measuring myself against? Using pen and paper, answer this question as fully as you can, from all past and present experience.
Realize that good and bad are as you see good and bad.
2. Are you trying to mould yourself according to someone else’s standard of acceptability?

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First Aid: Problem

You are, or someone else is, in the middle of such a big problem that nothing else seems to exist. It is so big that it is all that they can see–and they see it, of course, from the inside.
Ask
1. What is the problem (or situation, or condition)? so that you have a name for it–for example, “the problem with my boyfriend.”
Now ask2. What problem (situation or condition) would be worse than ……………… e.g. “the problem with my boyfriend.”
They may say that nothing

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First Aid: Psychic attack

It appears that you are being sabotaged and that your experiences are being created by a malevolent source. This can be true. The way to handle it is not:
1. To resist it or get angry about it.
2. To fight it or to defend self.
3. To hide from it or escape it.
These actions encourage it to affect you.
Step aside and allow the energy from that other to go past you. Allow it to be their energy. If you do nothing at all but realise that there is some energy there, to accept or reject,

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First Aid: Regretted actions

1. Look at what you have done. Really acknowledge it to yourself. Do not make excuses or justifications–these only make you feel worse.
2. How do you judge yourself for behaving in this way? How do you regard or judge anyone else who has done the same thing?
3. Forgive all others that you have judged. When you have done that, you will be able to forgive yourself.
4. Decide to change.

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First Aid: Revenge

Revenge is an attempt to show how displeased or angry you are because of something that another has done. You consider that they have harmed you. You do not know how to express your anger nor how to ‘make right’ the hurt you feel.
If you consider that you will feel better once the other person shares your anger and hurt and therefore plan to cause them to share it by doing something that angers and hurts them you are then creating two lots of anger and hurt.
You will each have two lots of

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First Aid: Self pity

If you are lost in self-pity,
Ask yourself
1. Whose attention do I want?
Then ask,
2. When?
Ask
3. Who am I trying to punish?
Then ask,
4. When?
Just let answers come. It may surprise you.
Now, ask yourself
5. Do I enjoy giving attention to someone else who is feeling sorry for themselves.
If your answer is “No,”
6. Decide what kind of person you do prefer to be with, and give your attention to.
If you are trying to punish

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First Aid: Shame

When you have not been allowed to feel real sorrow, or have not allowed yourself to feel real sorrow, the resulting effect of an emotion is shame.
Shame and guilt are not normal human emotions. Shame has no source within you ## it is something that has been dumped on you. Do not confuse shame with the powerful energy of remorse.
The only first aid is to realize that shame is something that has been caused by another, or others. It can be ended by not trying to hide the cause.

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First Aid: Sick (of a loved one)

If the sickness of another causes you worry and fear you can become weak and ineffective. No-one is helped in this way.
What people create is what exists. If you are happy and I am happy we have two lots of happiness. That seems OK. If I am unhappy and you become unhappy then we have two lots of unhappiness. That does not seem so good. It will not create happiness for anyone.
If someone is sick, and you put your attention on the sickness, there are two lots of sickness. So the first thing to do

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First Aid: Suppressed feelings

Feelings which are suppressed, sometimes these are hard to identify–you think you feel. Sometimes not feeling is sensed as an awareness of lack or of hollowness. There are a lot of suppressed feelings around!
To begin to contact these, start from your earliest childhood memories.
1. Write down a list of the feelings you remember that you have had.
2. Write the feelings that you think you might have had if you had allowed yourself to express them.
3. Be aware of times when you felt

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