12 – Help

CHAPTER 12

HELP

To be helped, you need to be willing to give and receive help. But help is often abused, being used as a control mechanism and a means of dominating others.

Even when help is given freely without strings attached, it sometimes fails and the usual foolish tendency is to accumulate the weight of the failures without balancing them with the successes.

Because of the altruistic nature of true help, it is also a useful way to push through the barriers that you build up as you engage in conflicts with others. If you can find ways to help your enemy and for your enemy to help you, you can break down the barriers of hatred that keep you at war.

Here we are going to emphasize the positive side and use that to push through any weight of failures. We have been around for a long time and we haven’t always failed even if recent times look grim in some cases.

And we will use general rather than specific targets because you have often engaged in the same game over and over again and we do not wish to narrow the scope to the current situation. In other words, we want to do things like considering helping a parent rather than limiting ourselves to your specific parents in this lifetime because you have often gotten into the same kind of games with different parents over the course of many lives.

And we are only going to consider how you COULD help others or others COULD help you. There is no insistence that you do help, because true help must be given freely without pressure or strings attached. It is not a duty or a remedy for guilt (using it that way is one of the reasons it often fails).

But by considering how you could help, you will blow out the barriers of hatred, failure, and control and become free of much mental charge and difficulties. And then you can think freely and make your own choices in the area.

These are simple repetitive processes with alternating commands. Just keep doing the commands, spotting ways that you could help. The answers don’t have to be perfectly logical, just whatever you can think of.

As you run a process like this, you are often pushing through forces which are not immediately obvious from the processing command. As these come into view and dissipate, one can often have very interesting realizations.

This is the most desirable result of running a process, namely that you push through some kind of force or resistance and then, because the force is now out of the way, have a realization as a result. These sudden realizations are called “cognitions” in Scientology because one has become cognizant of something new.

If you have a cognition (sudden realization) while running a process, it generally means that the process is complete and you should give yourself a pat on the back.

And note that there are relative truths. Something may be true in a specific case or a limited frame of reference even if it is not broadly correct. And some truths are stepping stones to higher ones. These things are not absolutes although they often seem that way when you first realize them. So don’t invalidate these things when you notice exceptions, simply take a broader view and see what areas they do or do not apply to.

12.1 Willing to Help

12.1a) Who or what would you be willing to help?

12.1b) Who or what would you be willing to have help you?

12.1c) Who or what would you be willing to have others help?

12.2 General Help

12.2a) How could you help somebody else?

12.2b) How could somebody else help you?

12.2c) How could somebody else help others?

12.2d) How could somebody else help themselves?

12.2e) How could you help yourself?

12.3 Past Help

These are 4 separate processes, each with 2 commands that should be alternated.

12.3.1a) What help has another given you

12.3.1b) What help has another not given you

12.3.2a) What help have you given another

12.3.2b) What help have you not given another

12.3.3a) What help have others given others

12.3.3b) What help have others not given others

12.3.4a) What help have you give yourself

12.3.4b) What help have you not given yourself

12.4 Specific Help

There are quite a few processes here. Each has 5 commands that are run alternately.

12.4.1a) How could you help a parent (or guardian)

12.4.1b) How could a parent (or guardian) help you

12.4.1c) How could another help a parent (or guardian)

12.4.1d) How could a parent (or guardian) help another

12.4.1e) How could a parent (or guardian) help themselves

12.4.2a) How could you help a child

12.4.2b) How could a child help you

12.4.2c) How could another help a child

12.4.2d) How could a child help another

12.4.2e) How could a child help themselves

12.4.3a) How could you help a teacher

12.4.3b) How could a teacher help you

12.4.3c) How could another help a teacher

12.4.3d) How could a teacher help another

12.4.3e) How could a teacher help themselves

12.4.4a) How could you help a wife or lover

12.4.4b) How could a wife or lover help you

12.4.4c) How could another help a wife or lover

12.4.4d) How could a wife or lover help another

12.4.4e) How could a wife or lover help themselves

12.4.5a) How could you help a boss or senior

12.4.5b) How could a boss or senior help you

12.4.5c) How could another help a boss or senior

12.4.5d) How could a boss or senior help another

12.4.5e) How could a boss or senior help themselves

12.4.6a) How could you help an official

12.4.6b) How could an official help you

12.4.6c) How could another help an official

12.4.6d) How could an official help another

12.4.6e) How could an official help themselves

12.4.7a) How could you help a holy man

12.4.7b) How could a holy man help you

12.4.7c) How could another help a holy man

12.4.7d) How could a holy man help another

12.4.7e) How could a holy man help themselves

12.4.8a) How could you help a body

12.4.8b) How could a body help you

12.4.8c) How could another help a body

12.4.8d) How could a body help another

12.4.8e) How could a body help itself

12.5 Confronting the Emotions

We have mentioned the emotional scale in a previous chapter. Although we did some work with it, we avoided the issue of confronting people who are in the grips of strong emotions.

Now we can use these help processes to blow away the heavy barriers that most people build against these and make it easier for you to face up to and handle people who are being very emotional.

12.5.1a) How could you help an apathetic person

12.5.1b) How could an apathetic person help you

12.5.1c) How could another help an apathetic person

12.5.1d) How could an apathetic person help another

12.5.1e) How could an apathetic person help themselves

12.5.2a) How could you help a grief-stricken person

12.5.2b) How could a grief-stricken person help you

12.5.2c) How could another help a grief-stricken person

12.5.2d) How could a grief-stricken person help another

12.5.2e) How could a grief-stricken person help themselves

12.5.3a) How could you help a fearful person

12.5.3b) How could a fearful person help you

12.5.3c) How could another help a fearful person

12.5.3d) How could a fearful person help another

12.5.3e) How could a fearful person help themselves

12.5.4a) How could you help a covertly hostile person

12.5.4b) How could a covertly hostile person help you

12.5.4c) How could another help a covertly hostile person

12.5.4d) How could a covertly hostile person help another

12.5.4e) How could a covertly hostile person help themselves

12.5.5a) How could you help an angry person

12.5.5b) How could an angry person help you

12.5.5c) How could another help an angry person

12.5.5d) How could an angry person help another

12.5.5e) How could an angry person help themselves

12.5.6a) How could you help an antagonistic person

12.5.6b) How could an antagonistic person help you

12.5.6c) How could another help an antagonistic person

12.5.6d) How could an antagonistic person help another

12.5.6e) How could an antagonistic person help themselves

12.5.7a) How could you help a bored person

12.5.7b) How could a bored person help you

12.5.7c) How could another help a bored person

12.5.7d) How could a bored person help another

12.5.7e) How could a bored person help themselves

12.5.8a) How could you help a conservative person

12.5.8b) How could a conservative person help you

12.5.8c) How could another help a conservative person

12.5.8d) How could a conservative person help another

12.5.8e) How could a conservative person help themselves

12.5.9a) How could you help a cheerful person

12.5.9b) How could a cheerful person help you

12.5.9c) How could another help a cheerful person

12.5.9d) How could a cheerful person help another

12.5.9e) How could a cheerful person help themselves

12.6 Acceptable Help

12.6a) Spot an acceptable way of helping

12.6b) Spot an unacceptable way of helping

Most of the above processes served primarily to break down the walls that people build up which block them from contact with the world. But this one really opens the door to giving and receiving good help which really is helpful instead of entrapping.

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